hate it when...

guy calls you and you get all gushy.

there's always that person who's totally wrong for you, your rational self knows that you should JUST STAY AWAY, but the dang  honkin' double XX chromosome that makes us the fabulous women that we are is also the one that lets us give him just one more chance. As for my male readers out there, it's the "sensitive side" or the X chromosome in your XY make up that let's you give her just one more chance.

My theory is that we're all looking for love and to give love. Agape, one of my favorite words, is that unconditional, self-sacrificing, love. Whether you're religious or not, it's a full accepting and embracing love that we're always seeking to give and receive.

Yes, it's so important to have love in your life and people who love you, but we also have this strong desire to share ourselves with others...to give that unconditional love.

In singles-ville, that desire to give unconditional love tends to manifest itself in a lot of the wrong people who we keep letting back into our lives. As frustrating as it can be for our friends and family to watch, the only time Mr/Ms. Wrong gets the boot is when we finally come to our senses and realize that, no matter what, you have done all you can to love that person and they will never love you the way you deserve to be loved.

At the end of the day, while totally sucks to realize that you have spend your time loving someone who can never give you what you deserve; taking a chance on love will always open your heart to so much more later on down the road.

If you get a break through with that person and go into a great relationship, that's so awesome! I couldn't be happier for you (really truly). If you end up with a break up, surround yourself with friends, have a few cocktails, a fabulous night, and know that you aren't alone on this ongoing search.