Glee + Madonna = New Blog!!!

So, after last night’s episode of Glee “The Power of Madonna” I was inspired to write a little about what’s going on in my life after seeing the girls perform “Express Yourself.”


Things are a little crazy right now…as one would expect with a cross-country move just around the corner. Last week I was in NYC for a job interview and, of course, I got another first-hand glimpse of how classy guys are.

You never know how “appealing” you are until someone knows you’re in town for a few days/hours. Guy A texted me and willingly offered to hook it up and Guy B wasn’t far behind with a similar offer.

Now, both Guy A and B could be appealing for different reasons.
* Guy A is educated, driven, makes a good living, likes to travel, definitely an Alpha Male, good looking guy.
* Guy B is also educated, creative, an artist, likes to travel, not quite as aggressive as Guy A but still a take charge type.

Neither one are in a position to be in a relationship until they work on themselves. That was the case then and it’s still the case now. One has more baggage than an airport and the other makes Eeyore look cheerful.

Both are guys that I dated in the past and the romance fizzled out for way too many reason…I mean, it’s bad if you know the reasons before you break it off. I do feel that an ex is an ex for a reason, but this goes a lot further into the world of relationships.

While some would find the offer from these two flattering, I couldn’t have felt cheaper. Why should I lower my standards because you’re feeling a little lonely? Why should I allow myself to be objectified so you can get a release? I didn’t do it when we were talking, why would I do it now?

I hate to sound arrogant about it, but, to be quite honest; I’m just not at that level of boredom or loneliness. As my 20s come to an end, it’s time to prioritize. If you’re just after the physical relationship, that’s fine…no judgment here, but don’t fool yourself into thinking the physical leads to a real relationship. As many of us have come to realize, a guy rarely turns a booty call or hook up into a relationship.

As single people in the world, you really have to sit down and know yourself and what you are or are not willing to compromise. When you’re ready to find the real deal you have to ask yourself what you want and what you aren’t willing to compromise on.

It’s easy to look at your friends Facebook profiles and start freaking out because it feels like everyone is in a relationship, engaged, married, or having kids. I know it happened to me last night…I started thinking, when the hell did everyone grow up?! I still feel like I’m a 20-something in college. At the same time I refuse to let the pressure get to me.

I am in no way anti-marriage and would like to meet “the one” who just gets me, but I also know that if I jumped into a relationship without being ready, it would become another failed relationship and I deserve better than that…we all do.

As Madonna says, “Don’t go for second best baby, put your love to the test. You got to make him express how he feels and then you’ll know your love is real…”

The crazies always come back for more...

Let me begin by saying it’s always the ones you don’t want who keep coming back for more. So, the southern boy who disappeared from my life and de-friended me on Facebook has decided to resurface.


It began with some VERY random e-mail forwards. Ok, if you know me, you know how much I hate forwards…fortunately for him, the forwards were cute. So I replied with a “please stop sending me these forwards.” To which apparently meant “I’ve missed you, please e-mail and text me." I really need to work on my communication skills

Any way, he decided to proceed with contact. I of course don’t feel like wasting my time on another guy for the sake of male attention. Why set myself up for unproductive dating experiences. No dates is SO much better than the bad ones

To make things better, he is trying desperately to act as if nothing happened…as if we went out a few days ago instead of a few weeks ago. When he asked me how I was, I responded with a where did you disappear to. He of course said he had “things” he had to deal with (translation: Stuff with my ex-girlfriend/I wasn’t over my ex)

He has for two weeks now been trying to set up Coffee Date Round 2. The nice thing about getting ready to move across the country is that I don’t even have to make something up. I’m really busy.

I commend him for trying to set something up (speaking of, he’s texting as I type), but it’s too little too late. I mean, sure, a girl can let a week slide, but no self-respecting girl lets it go for 6 weeks only to go back to the guy for more…especially when the one and only date wasn’t so great.

This non-smoking, liberal, peace loving, hippie girl just can’t make it work with a smoking/hunting ultra conservative. Sure opposites can attract, but you have to have some commonalities.

I prefer a guy who isn’t going to fall off the face of the earth because I’m a girl he could see himself in a relationship with. I want the guy who sees the potential and sticks around.

Take a Hint...

So, the slobbery kisser is back…actually, he never went away. I've put it out there before and I know this sounds bad, but I don’t know how to get rid of him.

I might reply to one text for every 6 IMs/Texts he sends me and EVERY time he asks me out I have an excuse. I’ve told him that I don’t think things will work, he knows that I’m moving, and still he persists.


I know that persistence is a great quality in life; however, how far do we continue to pursue someone who clearly isn’t interested? He’s a nice enough guy, but we don’t want the same things in life.

He isn’t Catholic (doesn’t practice any religion), he has a kid and doesn’t want any more, we want very different things in life, I know that I'm not the type of girl he's looking for, but more than anything, I'm just not feeling any spark or excitement. He's definitely not someone I think or want to call if I'm having a bad day, need support, or just want a laugh. The list goes on of why he is a good person, but he's SO not right for me.

In the mean time, I’m still trying to figure out how to help him get a hint without being harsh. Poor guy…I hope he finds someone who works for him.